Youth Violence (Ephesians #43)

Text: Ephesians 6:4

Provoking children

  • Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
    • The word “but” is contrasting two ways a father can father his children.  One way is to provoke them.  The other is to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
    • Wrath is emotional outburst.  It’s a lack of emotional control.
  • This is how the devil does it with his children, John 8:44.  He incites and excites the flesh.
    • School shootings – Santa Fe high school is the latest
    • Gangs
    • ANTIFA or “Social Justice Warriors”
    • Sadism and bullies.
    • Islam is one of the greatest promoters of youth violence in the world.
  • James 1:19-20 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
  • The world’s remedy for youth violence
    • The world says if you spank your children you provoke them to wrath.  They will grow up and be violent.
    • The world says if you raise a Bible believer, they’ll be a crazy bigot terrorist.
    • The world, as a product of the flesh, says godliness is unreasonable restraint.
    • You need to understand this about the world.  People of the world will NEVER understand serving God or fellowship with God because these are things that require the Spirit of God.  There is no capacity to understand these spiritual things, so it is normal that the world views godliness as a threat to a child’s growth and health.
  • God said it was an unbalanced, ungodly childhood that brings frustration and wrath.

Bringing children up

  • …bring them up…
    • BRING means you walk the walk and bring them along.  
    • If I’m bringing someone up, then I’m taking them where I’m already going.
    • So that means I don’t ask them about serving God, I show them how to do it.
    • I don’t send them to church, I bring them.
    • I don’t pray for them to be godly, I show them what godliness looks like.
    • Remember, this is God’s command.
    • A balance of nourishing and correcting in the Lord.
  • Bring them up.  I think of the example of little tender plant growing up.  And if it’s a tomato plant, you may put a straight stick beside it or a wire frame around it.  Because you want it to grow up straight, be supported. But in order to get it to grow up straight, you’ve got to have something straight to tie it to.  That’s a father.

Nurturing children

  • Nurture
    • If you’re bringing your kids up in the nurture of the Lord then the Lord has to have nurtured you along the way so you can pass it on.
    • Nurture is that physical care which promotes growth.  Nutrition, nourishment. Both positive and negative.
    • Negative nurture
      • Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.  Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
      • If children never learns how to obey and never learns correction and chastisement, it doesn’t do any good to bring them to church.  Because when the preacher says there are consequences to sin, they kids will laugh at God like they laughed at you.
    • Positive nurture
      • Comforting in 1 Thessalonians 2:11

Admonishing children

  • Admonition of the Lord
    • 1 Corinthians 10:11 written for our admonition
    • Admonition is not physical, it is spiritual care which promotes growth.  It’s instruction and teaching.
  • Admonish: 1. To warn or notify of a fault; to reprove with mildness. 2. To counsel against wrong practices; to caution or advise. 3. To instruct or direct.
    • If you’re bringing your kids up in the admonition of the Lord then the Lord has to have admonished you along the way so you can pass it on.
    • So the record God has kept is for admonishing future generations.
    • Colossians 3:16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
  • A Pharisee lawyer asked Jesus this question one day.  Answer is Matthew 22:34-38
    • So the context of it.  Deuteronomy 6:1-15
    • Jesus actually answers the question instead of saying they’re all good laws  
    • How do you love God with all that?  God gave His words so that Israel could LOVE Him.
    • This isn’t a Sunday School commandment.  It isn’t even a Sunday school, sunday night, wednesday night commandment. It’s an everyday commandment God commanded the children of Israel that His words were to be involved in every sphere of life, everyday.