A Good Dad (Titus #5)

A Good Dad

Text: Titus 1:6

Home is the proving ground. All of these qualifications really go together in verse 6. 

In your home, God holds dad responsible

  • A man named Eli failed to rule his house in 1 Samuel 3:11-14.
  • Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
  • With men it’s about the courage to rule well. And the compassion to know how to have oversight.

Teach your children what obedience/disobedience feels like

  • Obedience sometimes feels like doing something you don’t want to.
  • Learned he obedience by the things which he suffered…
  • Bribing children isn’t obedience. It may be manipulation, but it’s not obedience.
    • Disobedience feels like ignoring instructions.
    • If dad, mom, grandma, and grandpa, are barking out orders they don’t intend to enforce, you’ll learn disobedience has little consequence.
  • Proverbs 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
  • If children don’t respect dad and mom because you’ve fostered this disrespect in your home, honestly, putting them in a sunday school class that’s going to teach them to honor God is useless.

Model behavior

  • …bring them up…
  • BRING means you walk the walk and bring them along.  
  • If I’m bringing someone up, then I’m taking them where I’m already going.
  • So that means I don’t ask them about serving God, I show them how to do it.
  • I don’t send them to church, I bring them.
  • I don’t pray for them to be godly, I show them what godliness looks like.
    • Remember, this is God’s command.
  • A balance of nourishing and correcting in the Lord.
  • Bring them up. I think of the example of little tender plant growing up. And if it’s a tomato plant, you may put a straight stick beside it or a wire frame around it. Because you want it to grow up straight, be supported. But in order to get it to grow up straight, you’ve got to have something straight to tie it to. That’s a father.

Correction is necessary

  • Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.  Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
  • Hebrews 12:6-8 – Chastening, or the administration of pain in order to align the will of the child with the will of the parent.
  • Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
  • Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Spankings affect the heart like touching a hot stove affects the heart by affecting the DESIRE to never touch it again.
  • Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
  • Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Love is necessary

  • Fathers give their children confidence
  • Comforting in 1 Thessalonians 2:11. To give confidence to your children.
  • You have a responsibility to create an environment of open communication.

Scriptural training is loving God

  • A Pharisee lawyer asked Jesus this question one day.  Answer is Matthew 22:34-38 
  • So the context of it.  Deuteronomy 6:1-15
  • Jesus actually answers the question instead of saying they’re all good laws  
  • How do you love God with all that? God gave His words so that Israel could LOVE Him.
  • This isn’t a Sunday School commandment. It isn’t even a Sunday school, sunday night, wednesday night commandment. It’s an everyday commandment God commanded the children of Israel that His words were to be involved in every sphere of life, everyday.